When the pandemic started, the Poissonnière was enrolled in a ground-breaking local day care that was, rather conveniently, right on our bus route to campus. My pre-COVID commute was centered around taking a toddler on public transit, dropping her off, and catching the next bus to campus. She was a better, more conscientious commuter by age 3 than some adults who rode our bus. No morning was complete without a few minutes at the “goodbye window,” where I would fog the window to write her name or make drawings before blowing kisses & waving goodbye.
When COVID came we had to pull her out, and kept her out through the duration of the period she was not eligible for a vaccine. This meant she aged out of daycare and never returned before starting kindergarten. Our beloved daycare, now celebrating fifty-one years, is set to move from its original location to a new space in a brand new mixed-use building they have co-developed with a local non-profit that specializes in affordable housing for people with disabilities, Today is the farewell open house. Current staff, including those who have worked there 40+ years, retired former staff, and alumni & families will all be there.
Well, the Poissonnière picked up a bug at school this week and has been sick since Thursday night, so we will miss this goodbye, too.
And step (second case she’s had this winter) confirmed at urgent care. She’ll miss her best friend’s birthday party, too.
Thanks, parents of classmates.
What’s everyone’s sense of how to split the cost of an Airbnb and/or rental car and there are three people, one solo and a married couple? Do you split 3 ways for each person or 2 ways for each “family unit?” I see the case for both. I would be the solo person so I have a financial stake.
If the number of people would necessitate a larger vehicle than two, either for creature comfort for the backseat passenger or to fit luggage, then a per-seat split of the rental fee seems the fairest. When I’ve traveled with others I typically buy gas on a 50/50, every-other fill-up, split.
Airbnb is a bit trickier than a hotel, where you’re either splitting the room (I’d pay half since I’m imposing on the couple) or one person pays full freight for a single room. It depends a bit on what’s being rented, but a lot of places have more than one bedroom anyway, so it’s much less of an imposition. If I were booking the Airbnb and I were the single traveler, I might ask the couple to kick in half. They get a slight discount, but I might get a slightly nicer place for less total outlay. If I was booking and part of the couple, I wouldn’t expect half and would happily accept a third or payment-in-kind (say, covering a nice dinner tab). If I were the single traveler and not the one booking the accommodation, I’d offer half.
As with a car, if someone expects a certain type of amenity that increases the price or length of stay, I think that changes the calculus.
I like the logic here - both sides should "expect" they'd pay more for themselves. Ultimately I'd look to find a workable solution between thirds and halves - maybe 60/40, with the married couple paying more, but less than 2/3rds?
Yeah, making the math straightforward seems like a decent balance. And we have so many options for settling up debts these days!
Might depend on the accommodations. If the single's bed/room is also a double, I'd expect to pay my fair split then.
I'm very midwestern in my thinking on this subject, everyone pays their fair share regardless of marital status. Now, this is thorny because a host of complications including the type of accommodations (does one room have ensuite bathroom? and the other not?), the perceived value to cost of the accommodation by all parties, and the financial status of all parties (tho, I'm less inclined to think that just because Johnny makes 500,000 k a year and I make 50,000k a year Johnny should pay more - after all, I'm choosing to go on this vacation....).
A real world example, our friend group includes 2 other couples who regularly travel to state parks together splitting a cabin at least once a year (welp, before the pandemic....). The cabins here are set up with one queen size bed and a bedroom with 2 bunk beds. The couple with the kid always get the queen room, and we always split the bunk beds. We've always chopped up the bill in thirds. The couple with the kid always brings two meals worth of food and we each provide one meal, so some brand of acknowledgement that there is an accommodation being made. (The kid also makes for a pretty early alarm clock .... lots of headaches due to past meat's decision to have one more drink .... memories).
Having said all this, issues like this have become so much less fraught now that we're middle age duel income, no kid, freewheeling hippies. I've also become far more assertive in having the conversation upfront whenever splitting a ticket for meals or vacation rentals rather than waiting until it's over to discuss. So much more relaxing to know that we're going to split the check when the waiter arrives rather than ordering the cheaper option and hoping that I'll only be accountable for my portion.
Just showed the house to a very interested buyer. Please send any spare good vibes down the river.
All the positive waves, meat.
By the barge load!
This is an exciting turn, and you've got the good wishes!
Ugh. They passed. Welp. It’s only money.
well dang
Waves, soothing waves.
Anybody here with experience giving platelets?
I did it for the first time on Thursday (platelets and plasma). Late yesterday I started feeling a bit light-headed. That feeling has continued today. Slightly dizzy and light-headed. Not horrible, but not quite right.
I almost felt like I had the spins last night in bed and I definitely wasn't drunk.
Next time, I will load up on calcium-rich foods the two days before.
I seem to remember a coworker chewing Tums during...?
Yes. They gave me Tums during. My face and lips started tingling, which is a sign that the anticoagulant is messing with blood calcium levels.
I can heartily endorse the pairing of a Moroccan-style lamb chorba with Urban Chestnut’s Dorf Bier Munich lager.
When the pandemic started, the Poissonnière was enrolled in a ground-breaking local day care that was, rather conveniently, right on our bus route to campus. My pre-COVID commute was centered around taking a toddler on public transit, dropping her off, and catching the next bus to campus. She was a better, more conscientious commuter by age 3 than some adults who rode our bus. No morning was complete without a few minutes at the “goodbye window,” where I would fog the window to write her name or make drawings before blowing kisses & waving goodbye.
When COVID came we had to pull her out, and kept her out through the duration of the period she was not eligible for a vaccine. This meant she aged out of daycare and never returned before starting kindergarten. Our beloved daycare, now celebrating fifty-one years, is set to move from its original location to a new space in a brand new mixed-use building they have co-developed with a local non-profit that specializes in affordable housing for people with disabilities, Today is the farewell open house. Current staff, including those who have worked there 40+ years, retired former staff, and alumni & families will all be there.
Well, the Poissonnière picked up a bug at school this week and has been sick since Thursday night, so we will miss this goodbye, too.
And step (second case she’s had this winter) confirmed at urgent care. She’ll miss her best friend’s birthday party, too.
Thanks, parents of classmates.
What’s everyone’s sense of how to split the cost of an Airbnb and/or rental car and there are three people, one solo and a married couple? Do you split 3 ways for each person or 2 ways for each “family unit?” I see the case for both. I would be the solo person so I have a financial stake.
If the number of people would necessitate a larger vehicle than two, either for creature comfort for the backseat passenger or to fit luggage, then a per-seat split of the rental fee seems the fairest. When I’ve traveled with others I typically buy gas on a 50/50, every-other fill-up, split.
Airbnb is a bit trickier than a hotel, where you’re either splitting the room (I’d pay half since I’m imposing on the couple) or one person pays full freight for a single room. It depends a bit on what’s being rented, but a lot of places have more than one bedroom anyway, so it’s much less of an imposition. If I were booking the Airbnb and I were the single traveler, I might ask the couple to kick in half. They get a slight discount, but I might get a slightly nicer place for less total outlay. If I was booking and part of the couple, I wouldn’t expect half and would happily accept a third or payment-in-kind (say, covering a nice dinner tab). If I were the single traveler and not the one booking the accommodation, I’d offer half.
As with a car, if someone expects a certain type of amenity that increases the price or length of stay, I think that changes the calculus.
I like the logic here - both sides should "expect" they'd pay more for themselves. Ultimately I'd look to find a workable solution between thirds and halves - maybe 60/40, with the married couple paying more, but less than 2/3rds?
Yeah, making the math straightforward seems like a decent balance. And we have so many options for settling up debts these days!
Might depend on the accommodations. If the single's bed/room is also a double, I'd expect to pay my fair split then.
I'm very midwestern in my thinking on this subject, everyone pays their fair share regardless of marital status. Now, this is thorny because a host of complications including the type of accommodations (does one room have ensuite bathroom? and the other not?), the perceived value to cost of the accommodation by all parties, and the financial status of all parties (tho, I'm less inclined to think that just because Johnny makes 500,000 k a year and I make 50,000k a year Johnny should pay more - after all, I'm choosing to go on this vacation....).
A real world example, our friend group includes 2 other couples who regularly travel to state parks together splitting a cabin at least once a year (welp, before the pandemic....). The cabins here are set up with one queen size bed and a bedroom with 2 bunk beds. The couple with the kid always get the queen room, and we always split the bunk beds. We've always chopped up the bill in thirds. The couple with the kid always brings two meals worth of food and we each provide one meal, so some brand of acknowledgement that there is an accommodation being made. (The kid also makes for a pretty early alarm clock .... lots of headaches due to past meat's decision to have one more drink .... memories).
Having said all this, issues like this have become so much less fraught now that we're middle age duel income, no kid, freewheeling hippies. I've also become far more assertive in having the conversation upfront whenever splitting a ticket for meals or vacation rentals rather than waiting until it's over to discuss. So much more relaxing to know that we're going to split the check when the waiter arrives rather than ordering the cheaper option and hoping that I'll only be accountable for my portion.
Just showed the house to a very interested buyer. Please send any spare good vibes down the river.
All the positive waves, meat.
By the barge load!
This is an exciting turn, and you've got the good wishes!
Ugh. They passed. Welp. It’s only money.
well dang
Waves, soothing waves.
Anybody here with experience giving platelets?
I did it for the first time on Thursday (platelets and plasma). Late yesterday I started feeling a bit light-headed. That feeling has continued today. Slightly dizzy and light-headed. Not horrible, but not quite right.
I almost felt like I had the spins last night in bed and I definitely wasn't drunk.
Next time, I will load up on calcium-rich foods the two days before.
I seem to remember a coworker chewing Tums during...?
Yes. They gave me Tums during. My face and lips started tingling, which is a sign that the anticoagulant is messing with blood calcium levels.
I can heartily endorse the pairing of a Moroccan-style lamb chorba with Urban Chestnut’s Dorf Bier Munich lager.
And I endorse Urban Chestnut's food menu
wolves and wild at same time again.
Nice win for the Wolves in Sactown.