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Father Knows Best — Transitions

My oldest son Francis used to be my oldest daughter Frances. Francis is 25 and lives and works in Chicago so being the parent of a trans kid is somewhat removed for me at this point but it still presents unique challenges and opportunities for learning.

One of the challenges is who do you tell and when? Even though by this point many people know Francis is now a man, not everyone does. I find that some people I have an easy time telling but some people who I have a fleeting relationship with will refer to Francis as a “she” and I find myself not correcting them. It’s really hit and miss for me and as I’ve kept this quiet on the WGOM for nearly 3 years myself, consider this Father Knows Best posting my “coming out” as a Trans Dad.

Of course having a trans kid brings other concerns as a parent. Let’s face it, not everyone is comfortable with trans people; discrimination and even violence is not uncommon. I bring it up to dates in case they are uncomfortable with it. It is a parent’s worst fear that bad things could happen to their child because of who that kid is and basically are powerless to do anything about it. Luckily nothing like this has happened to Francis (that I know of).

It is, however, pretty amazing how accepting people are. For people under 30, it’s not even an issue. My youngest refers to Francis as his brother like it’s been rolling off his tongue forever and the nieces and nephews didn’t even bat an eye. Others that I have told have been more fascinated with the process than questioning the intent. Which has been nice for me.

One thing that I have learned these past 3 years is that sexuality is definitely not M or F but is in fact on a continuum. Francis is the same person he’s always been with the same personality, sense of humor, needs and desires. In fact he exhibits some characteristics that I would consider “feminine.” But having said that, I don’t question at all his identifying as a male.

So we are all in a good place. Francis is a very happy, young person, striking out on his own in Chicago. He has a good job, been in a relationship for over 5 years, and has matured greatly these past few years, like many kids in their mid-20s do. The three of us are going backcountry hiking at Glacier National Park this coming July and I’m really looking forward to it.

Do I have any Father Knows Best advice? Probably not, each of us will have to experience the world our kids bring to us as they grow up. All I can say is your kids are their own person and it’s quite fascinating to watch them grow and experience the world on their own terms. It’s quite a ride, just make sure you have something to hold on to.

The Jam — In the City

From 1977 (I think).  Not all punks were snot nosed.  The Jam brought  some style to the scene, but don't let the clothes fool you, they still brought anger and a driving guitars to their songs.  Paul Weller was tough!  Reportedly he beat up Sid Vicious cuz he thought the Sex Pistols copied his songs.  I'm dropping another song in the comments.

 

 

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The Clash — Complete Control

From 1977.  Of course I needed to include "the only band that matters."  Besides being a cool song with a nice guitar part, I picked this one because of the weird set.  It looks like was recorded in 1970's rich person's idea of a cool basement.  Pretty sure I'm going to throw I'm so Bored with the USA in the comments.

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The Damned — New Rose

From 1976(!)  Not sure why these guys weren't any bigger, but this song absolutely rocks.  The Damned were contemporaries of the Sex Pistols and this single came out five weeks before Anarchy in the UK. It's a shame they weren't better known, with their first album soon populating the cutout bins of Mankato record shops.

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The Pretenders — The Wait

In honor of Redd Kross playing at the Amsterdam Bar, I'm going to Punk School this week.

We are starting off with The Pretenders, which is the band that got me to stop listening to Foreigner and start listening to The Sex Pistols.  When I first heard this song, it grabbed me by the throat and threw my down on the floor.  I haven't gotten up since.  Sorry about the b&w video, but the version is worth it.

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FMD — Live Albums

NME has your typical internet trope -- a list!  This time best live albums.  Actually it's pretty decent, although I'm shocked it didn't include Cheap Trick Live at Budokan.  I would also add Built to Spill Live and of course Guided by Voices Live at the Wheelchair Races.  Otis Redding Live on the Sunset Strip would be another.  Oh and I would have gone with The Name of this Band is Talking Heads over Stop Making Sense, but that's just me.

What other great live albums do you swear by?